HOW WE CAN DO BETTER 2

Hello beautiful people, you're welcome to today's edition of How We Can Do Better.

In the previous edition, I spoke about the first step of doing better, which is balancing parenting and giving equal training to both sexes. Today however, we'll be digging deeper on how parents can do better. The truth is rape isn't a new occurrence but I strongly believe that it has lingered for too long because our immediate family isn't exactly addressing the issue. The other day, a lady was justifying her rapist. She said she blames herself totally for the rape because "she put herself in the situation". That statement irked my spirit, soul and body AAARRRGGGGHHHH!!!. Sister, that you went to a boy's house or slept in the same room with a boy doesn't give the boy every right to have sex with you.

Don't get me wrong o, I'm not throwing away the fact that as ladies too we should be cautious. I'm just saying the men also have to understand that they MUST have control over their third leg and MUST seek proper consent (not consent given under the influence of alcohol, or after violence or persuasion)... They MUST seek proper consent before having sex with any woman. 

Moving forward, aside from balancing the parenting, parents MUST learn to stop entrusting their kids in the hands of an "uncle" or "aunty", whether relative or not. Most of the time, this is where the molestation begins. So many people have stories of how one uncle in the area or school or church etc assaulted them - these are uncles and aunties their parents told to please watch over them o. These "uncles" and "aunties" start by buying them gifts all the time, sometimes, doing homework for them…. Basically making the parents of these children comfortable to entrust the kids in their care. Please parents don't fall for it. NEVER TOTALLY LEAVE YOUR CHILDREN WITH "UNCLES" AND"AUNTIES" ALL THE TIME.

Also, no be only uncles and aunties dey rape our children o, even domestic staff dey follow rape or assault pikin if oga and madam no dey house. Monitor your domestic staff (nannies, drivers, gatemen, househelps  etc) closely and try as much as possible not to leave them alone with your children often. I would encourage mounting cameras in different corners of the house so you can be in the know of what's going on in the house.

Lastly for today, dear parents teach your children to stop calling outsiders uncle and aunty. Gbogbo uncle X and aunty K yen, nonsense lo man ja si laslas. You are either Mr X or Ms (or Mrs) K. A o ni shoriburku o. Majority of the rape victims were violated by known uncles and aunties.

In conclusion, monitor your children closely, build a very close relationship with them so that they're free to let you know whatever is going on in their lives.

Thanks for coming to my TEDTalk. Till we meet again pretty soon, I remain

Ore Sho.

Peace, love and small chops ✌🏾

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